A husband wife relationship may the most sacred bond shared by two souls. But it is also the most delicate of them all. Many youngsters tie the knot with the hope of a happily ever after but a husband wife relationship takes a lot of work than just that. Often, marriages do not work out. Sometimes it is because one partner gives up and the other is unaware of it.
Slowly, the husband wife relationship falls apart as a wedge comes between the two. Eventually, the relationship is doomed.
If you are one of those unassuming wives who are not aware of the distance coming between you and your husband then how can you still save your marriage? Fear not, we have the answer to your dilemma. All you need is to notice the classic signs of how your husband is slowly losing interest in you. Spot these and you can still work on your relationship.
Here are the 10 signs that spell trouble in a husband wife relationship:
1. Your home has become a guest house
Your husband will take every opportunity to leave the house and be outside. He will stop coming from work on time, will spend more time hanging out with friends or even work overtime. This may even indicate that he is having an affair since the spark in the husband-wife relationship is snuffed out.
2. The silent treatment
Has your chatty husband suddenly grown quiet? Does he not share his thoughts and emotions with you? Is dinner time with him more like a punishment? If he is suddenly bottling up, there are chances that something is troubling him but is not ready to share it with you. He may also be using silence to hide things from you.
3. The “Other” one
No, we don’t mean his secretary or the pretty woman in his office. He might be romancing his devices much more than he pays you attention. Technology and the internet can swallow a man whole and the fact that he is spending more time on them than being present with you spells trouble. Him giving them a priority over you definitely speaks volumes about the husband-wife relationship that you two share.
4. Lone Wolf
Remember when you would have a scheduled activity that you used to do together? What happened to that? Even if it was something as small as cooking together to some big as going on vacations together. Suddenly, he is not available or too busy at such “us” time. Chances are, he is unhappy and does not wish to be alone with you.
5. Huh… What?
Your husband doesn’t pay you any attention now. Especially when it comes to your appearance. No matter how hard you try to look presentable, he has not even noticed, let alone appreciate the effort that you make. Compliments on your new haircut or a new dress will transition into grunts of acknowledgment.
6. Rusted trophy
Remember the initial days when he couldn’t wait to show you off to the world? Every woman loves being pampered and made to feel like she is worthy, but if he is withdrawing that then it points to a deeper problem. Not just that, small acts like holding hands while out or the early morning cuddle can also be cut down just because he has lost his interest.
7. Crude humor
If you find him passing rude remarks at you even if he meant it as a “joke,” which is uncharacteristic of him, it could be a warning sign. Especially when he has no regard for your emotions. Maybe being mean and disrespectful has become his coping mechanism to deal with how badly the relationship is going.
8. I, Me, Myself
The focus of all your conversations has shifted to your husband. He doesn’t seem to care about knowing more about you, your day, or even your life. Rather, he spends time ranting about his own issues. Conversely, he may get extremely secretive and not share any information about himself.
9. Blame Game
Your husband may start blaming you in an unwarranted manner. For anything that goes wrong, he will find ways to make you the cause of that unpleasantness. Everything bad that happens will see fingers being pointed at you.
10. Slack in the Sack
The once vibrant sex life will come to a standstill. He may not even seem interested to display his affection towards you. The sexual chemistry that you shared before will gather dust and you will end up feeling more like roommates and less like lovers.